I Saw My Brain and Other Adventures

I woke up this morning with every intent on this being a good day.  That is until I realized I slept in for the first day of school.  I rushed and somehow managed to get three kids fed, dressed, washed, lunches made and out the door in time to get to their first day of school.  It wasn't without some battles of "there's no way you're wearing that" and the panic of making sure everyone has everything they need even though we've checked and double checked every day for a week now.  Let's add the breath test to make sure all the teeth are brushed and the face inspection to make sure no jam from breakfast was missed during the washing.  Clean kids is a small morning victory.

We all managed our shoes, our stuff and were on our merry way.  Lily found her grade six class, Chloe made it to her grade three room and Little Man Everett arrived safe and sound to grade one.  Once they were dropped off I slowly meandered my way home.  Kids first day back to school was a small morning victory so I kicked a rock, mailed a letter (yes, people still do this) and pondered how fast my kids are getting older and bigger and also, like most mothers, how weird it will be to have a quiet house all day even after a summer all by myself. However great this small victory, I still needed to get home and clean the house a little. 

So I get home and what faces me is two broken wooden beds and a bunch of boxes that I pulled out of storage to rummage through and purge.  That was a mistake.  I looked up the stairs and wondered how the hell I was going to get the energy to get up them let alone get the broken beds broken down for the garbage.  Not only that, I had company coming at ten for tea.  It was 9:30AM and I wasn't even close to ready for anyone to see the mess that had become my apartment.  I quickly kicked off my boots and grabbed the clothes and the Mr. Clean and the broom.  I had that place looking clean yet slightly disorganized with enough time to brush my teeth, my hair and change my shirt.  I stood with the broom in my hand, the dish cloth on my shoulder waving like a cape with my hand on my hip ... Super Mom? No, Super Procrastinator who completed a small task in a tizzy rush which I am counting as another small morning victory.

The kettle was on when my morning visitor came bearing gifts of a giant box of tea and a big jug of milk.  It was lovely but I was more excited about the smile, the hug and the little bit of affection I was craving.  I will not nor do I want to get into details of the discussion but let's just say that no one ran, no one cried, no one freaked out but someone did fart.  All in all, another small morning victory that left me happy, comfortable and secure.  

Now the big part:  the neurologist.  The kids went to my friend's place while I went for the bus which was late then the ferry which was also late then the walk which made me late to the office where the doctor was running behind.  Thank you universe.  There's only one other time I remember shaking in a doctor's office and it's not a time I care to remember.  I texted my friends, joked with the receptionist and listened to the older couple next to me try to figure out what the purpose of a neurologist was. They also whispered about me very loudly.

"She's too young to be here, there's nothing wrong with her."

"Ohhh wait, look! Her hands do that tremor thing like mine do .... hers are worse." (Picture the look of awe on a woman who is at bare minimum 80.)

Yeeeeah, dear readers, remember that sometimes people can hear you whisper when you're sitting next them separated only by an end table with two magazines.  Nothing else to do but giggle as they were freaking adorable.  Before I could debate too long on whether or not to tell them what the FRCPC meant after Dr. MacKelvey's name (Fellow of the Royal College of Physicians of Canada for anyone who was also wondering), THE Dr. MacKelvey was calling my name.  

Off I went but no skip in my step since I felt like I was walking to my doom.  I sat, he sat and reviewed my charts and then he did the coolest thing ever:  he brought up my MRI scan and showed me my BRAIN!!  I saw my brain! Top and side view and my neck and it was so interesting and so gross.  My eyes looked like boiled eggs and my cervical spine look like meaty ox tail.  The brain itself looks just how you'd imagine it, like wrinkled grey play dough.  The MRI scan was amazing, I could even see hairs coming from the line that was my skin and wrinkles and what would be muscle and the bone was incredible.  I was able to see the inside of one of my vertebrae!!  Small afternoon victory of seeing the inside of my own head and not a lobster's! Whoop!

I also saw my lesions and that's when it was real.  Reading the MRI report was one thing but seeing the white blotches on the screen that was MY brain, not a Google image, hammered home the reality.  I was in a neurologists office, not someone else, being told that although I seem to have gained some strength since my last visit, my progress was slow and it didn't look like my hand function was going to come back.  I wasn't holding someone else's hand when they were told that even though the lesions were small, there were a lot of them, I was wringing my own hands together.  It was my shoulder this man touched, looked me in the eye and promised me he was going to do what he could to keep my from progressing like my mother.  He told me not to give the 100% to the diagnosis yet, to keep hope up and there are still more tests to do then finished that statement with,

"All young women like you with these kind of lesions, it's always MS".

Lumbar puncture next week.  Going to look at my cerebrospinal fluid for oligoclonal bands, patterns of immunoglobulins (antibodies) which are products of the breakdown of myelin or something to that basic sort.  Testing positive for these bands is indicative of MS and will, along with the MRI and EMG test, give me the 100%.  Although, the way he looked at me changed and suddenly I'm being seen not at his office next time but at a hospital with all of my follow-ups at the local MS Clinic.

The receptionist was a little nicer on my way out, spoke a little softer when she handed me a blood work sheet and the clinic's card to call at any time with any questions.  She'll be in touch with the time for the lumbar puncture, which will happen within a week with a six week return on the results which, if positive, will be the result needed to start interfuron therapy to slow any progression and help put me in remission from this lapse.

No real victory this afternoon, just a good dose of reality.